1. The Basics: Manifesting through the Law of Attraction, ultimate accountability & ultimate self
“Affirm: I place no limits and no restrictions on all that I intend to accomplish and become from here on in.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting
The Law of Attraction is often misunderstood and dismissed as a hoax. In fact, I feel like Dr. Wayne Dyer, in writing his book, "Wishes Fulfilled" seemed to purposeful omit using this term likely because it's lost credibility over the years. The Law of Attraction has mistakenly been oversimplified, and it has been overcomplicated, too.
At their root, self-development, personal growth, self-help, and even self-care all have a basis in the law of attraction. It really isn't a "secret" at all. :)
I would like to introduce two concepts that can either empower us to change how we approach our lives and help us consciously create what happens, or can block our creation efforts entirely. The first is ultimate accountability. The second is our ultimate, divine identity.
At the root of the law of attraction is ultimate accountability for creating everything in our lives. Have you ever been thinking of someone and then run into them unexpectedly? Gotten the front row parking spot because you were sure you could park quickly and easily? My husband and I do this all the time at the beach near us. When summer hits, there is a line out of the parking lot pretty much all day, but we always get one of the spots closest to the beach, each time. At first, we focus on it and imagine parking simply and easily. After it happens a few times, it is easy to believe it will keep happening. And that? It works for everything. These are simple examples of what happens all the time in our lives. And this is the law of attraction at work.
On small levels, and large ones, too, we draw things to us through our feelings, which have a vibrational energy that brings to us things that match what we are feeling. It's like that day when everything goes wrong or everything goes right. One thing happens and creates a feeling, like you are running late for work. Your frustration not only means you will tend to notice more frustrating things like slower moving traffic, more red lights, that sort of thing, but it will also mean more things will go wrong because you are sending out that energy and like attracts like.
Unless we switch our thinking/feelings/energy, things generally continue down the same path, confirming our beliefs about our lives and ourselves. In this way, on a larger scale, we have created what goes on in our day on either an actual, conscious level or on a vibrational one with our vibe.
The great news is that we can consistently and consciously choose new thoughts. And, if we can't chance our thoughts, we can easily switch our energy by thinking of things we love, spending time with positive people, even letting a call from a stressed out friend go to voicemail until we are in the best energy state to handle it. :)
While we may generally be VERY resistant to this creation concept at first, we can seek comfort in the idea that, until this point, we have not been creating consciously and so we didn't create chaos or disunion on purpose. We just didn't know any better. As we practice this new awareness and develop a new way of cultivating, expressing, and directing positive feelings, our lives will begin to change, and fast.
Now, let's discuss our ultimate identity by examining where our self-concept comes from in the first place. When we are younger, we have preconceived notions of who we are. Our self-definition process begins at a very young age when we are most impressionable and we seek approval from our parents, our siblings, our friends, our teachers. We begin to develop an idea of our patience/impatience, intelligence/slow comprehension, our affinity for art ("creative type") or analysis...... I am sure this resonates.
I accepted a false sense of self from those around me when I was very young. I loved to write and I loved to dance, so I was always told that I was creative. It wasn't until I was in my mid-twenties that it became clear to me that I was not really that creative at all. I was actually squarely in the analytical and pragmatic bucket. And, I didn't even have to be one or the other at all. We categorize because we are so inundated with information we are just trying to make sense of it all, but the lack of flexibility in these definitions and labels creates a rigid sense of self that is often false even on a literal, human level. On a spiritual level it's akin to jail. ;)
Our ultimate identities are not what labels we have been given or developed on our own, even those based on experience and validated with time. Our ultimate identities are our true, divine selves. Another name for it is intuition, soul, that voice that answers a prayer that we may even call God.
We exist in two realities, one human, one divine. All the time, we can choose to access either part of ourselves or react to what is happening from our human nature or our divine one. Someone takes their frustrations out on us and judges us unfairly. True, ur initial response even on an mental and physical level will be to "fight back", mentally with judgements, unkind words, defensiveness, and when we perceive an attack, we will, on a physical level, have some reaction that raises the stress hormone cortisol. But then we have a choice to continue in our human reality or choose to respond through our ultimate, divine self.
Energetically, if we continue to respond in our human way and we call a few friends and send a couple of texts about how awful this thing was that happened to us, we are giving out an extremely strong energy that is also charged with huge amounts of negativity. We need to stop ourselves, at some point, and ask what we really want to create.
The middle ground is that we can put the phone down and take some deep breaths. And while we may continue to "voice" frustration in our pretty little heads, we will not be generating greater destructive energy by spreading our bad vibe and getting more worked up.
Ideally, we will access our ultimate selves, our divine identities, and change our energy completely. We will fill our heads with a different narrative that brings an entirely different energy to us. If our narrative is too unrealistic at this point, we can flood our minds with visions of happy, love-inducing things to clear our energy and switch it to something way more productive. (Much more on this in subsequent posts.)
The most powerful energy we have to offer is loving energy. It is healing and it is a strong creative force. Changing our energy to happy and, ideally, loving energy yields a clear connection to our ultimate identities, our real selves. Acting from this space is always action we can trust. This action is healing and it is the best action for creation of what you want.
Often, we move through life in flow either for specific lengths of times in multiple areas of our lives, or for extended periods in a specific area or two. It isn't that earth-shattering and life-changing as we wish it might be. ;) This is a practical concept.
With that said, when we practice consciously creating positive energy for the creation of really amazing things in our lives, we get to spend a ton of time feeling joy, immense love, and completely fulfilling happiness. That is both practical and spiritual, too. :)
SO to circle the wagons, FINALLY, we have ultimate responsibility for what we experience in our lives and we have access to divinity inside of us to guide us toward manifesting what we truly deserve. We cannot and should not limit ourselves based on labels or concepts that are human an finite. Ultimately, we are divine which means we can take a seemingly ordinary creation process and expand it to include all options we can possibly conceive of. Now doesn't that sound divine? ;)