Now for the fun part. Because we create our own reality, we get to choose anything. Yes, anything. There is no dream that is too big. There is not a thing that you wish for that you cannot have. If you wish for something but are not wishing out of pure intent, you likely own’t get it or you will and then you will lose it. So in order to fulfill your manifestation, there are a few key parts of asking for what you would like that will make it more likely to come and stay.
Most often, we don’t ask for what we really want. We don’t dream big enough. If we do give ourselves permission to begin to envision what we really want, we quickly insert the dream into our current reality nd if we cannot figure out how we can realistically get ourselves from Point A to Point B, we start to lower the bar on our dream.
It makes sense because we are problem-solvers and smart people. Yet, deciding what we want for and in our lives is not a far-off dream nor should it be limited just because we cannot map out every detail of the how we will manifest it.
We like control and, as we grow older, we can tend to lack the ability to envision our ideal lives because we’ve gotten pragmatic, know the pitfalls, have seen others try and then fail. We may even have our own vast track record of dreams that we didn’t realize.
I would venture to say the biggest hang up comes because we imagine a dream as something other than reality. A wish seems like something that involves a genie or a fair godmother.
So let’s get practical here. Manifestation is a real thing if you would like it to be. I have used it in the ways mentioned in Lesson One and in a fairly vast number of other ways I may or may not want to discuss for privacy sake. ;)
I didn’t believe in any of it at first. I wanted this co-creation stuff to be real, but it just sounded completely…. out there. I am a normal person who has thought her way through life and made everyone aware of her objections to whatever higher thinking they’d been up to. ;) I am soooooo insanely analytical. I could think and think of the perfect way to create this blog, for example, for yeeeaarrrrzzzz…. And, as a skeptical woman born of a family of people who could talk you out of eating the sandwich you just made yourself, I believed in manifestation (also know as the weirdly impractical and highly delusional law of attraction ;)) out of sheer desperation. Then I used it a bit more as an escape from a very unpleasant, stressful, and literally depressing reality.
When it started working, instead of being overjoyed and exhilarated (okay, maybe I was for a few minutes), I freaked out. I felt guilty for all the things I had created in the past that hurt others and were generally not positive.
And I ditched it.
I couldn’t get over my mistakes. I couldn’t get past the fact that even after I’d read books dating back to the early 1900’s that explored all these tools that I am beginning to share with you, through quite a lot of rambling ;-), I still made the same mistakes. How could I have manifested things that were for me very amazing and then not been able to create a single thing I had defined?
Then, while listening to a Wayne Dyer audiobook for like the gazillionth time, an author he’d referenced repeatedly finally made a jump into my vivid awareness. I found a the print and audio versions of all the works of Neville Goddard and everything began to click. Through dated language and more Bible references than I was comfortable with at first ;), I found key messages from Neville’s work resonating with me so deeply I could do nothing to get myself to stop smiling. Even when I was confused by his message and language, it was as if my heart and my soul understood and it liked what it was hearing.
I realized that by trying to figure out how to achieve each goal myself, immediately, and by comparing my defined objective to a disparate present reality, I was lowering my dream, simplifying my wish, and considering dreams and wishes pure triviality.
How to Ask for What You Want
Here is what I did to stop limiting my dreams by doubt, overanalyzes, and assorted issues of the overactive mind ;-):
Define what you want. Write it down.
Review it and expand it. Add details to each category.
Ask yourself if your wants are limited by any perceptions of unworthiness. If so, expand your ask.
Ask yourself If your wants are compromised by limiting thoughts like, “This is enough to ask for. To want more would be greedy. “
Do you feel guilty asking for a lot when others have much less? If so, challenge yourself to revisit your ask and expand it in ways that may feel uncomfortable at first. Everyone has the right to ask for and receive their biggest wishes.
There is no limited supply despite what we are taught.
When we ask for something HUGE, we are not taking away from others. (In the future, I will discuss that guilt and how to help others who are suffering that does not diminish your seeking tools to express your greatest self.)
Now double your wishes. Expand the perceived love your future partner will shower on you. Expand the imagined vacations you will go on, the immense and constant care that this person will shower on you. Double the amount of money. Now triple it. Put yourself a couple more rungs up that work ladder if you feel this will help you express your highest self more clearly in your life.
Once a week for the next 3-4 weeks. Go back through your ask (it helps to document it) and see if you are ready to expand it more.
Use ideas like “I am worthy just like everyone around me is.”
“I don’t have to be perfect to ask for more ways to express myself more fully. I am already who I need to be to receive what I would like. Am I sure I’ve asked for enough?”
“Anything is possible. What do I really want?”
Believe You Can Have It
There will be much more about the more typical “believe and you shall receive” approach to manifestation upcoming. Here I want to spend a bit more time on what seems to be our biggest roadblock to manifestation. It is worthiness. We tend to think we aren’t doing enough, aren’t enough, aren’t perfect enough, religious enough, kind enough, yada, yada, and another YADA.
I spent kinda like a decade (or more) saddled with heavy, deep guilt. The guilty feelings came with everything, that I didn’t work hard enough, that I left work before a co-worker did, that I hadn’t spent enough time playing with my daughter, been present enough with my husband, etc. I have even been known to feel bad that I only ordered a salad at dinner because that meant the waiter wouldn’t get the larger tip he was likely hoping for.
Do you want to know why we feel guilt? Because we don’t feel worthy.
I didn’t feel good enough to put my need for a salad over the waiter’s need to make money. (For real.) I didn’t feel that my impending migraine was more important to take care of than the laundry. I could (obviously) go on and on and on.
My biggest challenge before I began manifesting, especially money, was feeling unworthy. How at a time when so many are suffering could I ask for and actually claim so much? Why would I be worthy of any of it?
While working through some magical Wayne Dyer stuff for the thousandth time the question found clarity in my mind. How could I get past the guilt of my mistakes and believe that I deserved what I wanted? The answer came equally as clearly. If everyone else on the entire planet made mistakes of all sizes and shapes didn’t that make me just as deserving as all of them? Why was I putting everyone else on a pedestal thinking I was the only one who had every struggled? My worth couldn’t possibly be lower than everyone else’s. If they deserved to go after their dream job, perfect relationship, find unconditional love and respectful friendships, then didn’t I deserve the same thing?
During the same period, another answer to my guilt and worthiness confusion came also. The dualism of be a flawed human (like everyone else) and a perfect part of the whole Universe/God/Source hit me as a clear reality. I didn’t have to be perfect all the time. I also wasn’t flawed all the time either. I could be learning the same way we all are and still be perfect at the exact same time. I mean wasn’t it true that my perfect soul self was living at the exact same time as my mistake self? ;) Why couldn’t the two just co-exist and learn to get along?
Being able to more closely identify with my perfect nature brought me an enormous sense of relief. Coupled with an awareness that by making mistakes I wasn’t worse than others also gave me alotta relief. My sense of worthiness took practice to cultivate after that, but from this basis of knowing I was good enough finally came the freedom to begin to explore things I previously thought were meant for other, better people.
So, as you expand your ask and define your dreams, spend time in a worthiness practice. It goes something like this:
I am equal to everyone.
I have a part of me that is perfect.
I deserve the room and permission to make mistakes just like everyone else as long as I work to learn and grow from them.
I deserve great things in all areas of my life.
I am always worthy of what I seek as long as it helps me express my soul self and does not impede on others.
As you repeat these mantras 2-3 times a day, you are can clearly personalize them, make them less cheesy seeming ;) and add to them.
Remember, the “work” of getting everything you want comes from expanding the time and space in which you feel amazingly good about yourself and your life. The more time you take to define your ask and expand your worthiness, the more clearly you will be able to articulate what you really want. Once you are clear and can knowingly ask and expect to receive, you will.
And that’s that! You’ve completely Lesson Two. Congrats! Thank you for being on this journey with me.