beginning a self-love practice 


When was the last time you told yourself that you love you? 

When was the last time you thanked yourself for all your hard work?

When was the last time you looked back and stood in awe of how far you’ve come? 



While it may seem silly, the things you tell others? Tell them to yourself. We all love hearing words of appreciation, compliments. It feels great. It fills us up. Doing this for ourselves does several totally important things. 

  • It reminds us we can look inside to find fulfillment rather than depending on others to recognize our efforts.
  • It fosters our self-love, which is not a selfish, self-absorbed or indulgent thing at all. Feeling love for ourselves frees us from using others’ flaws to pump ourselves up, or using their successes to feed feelings of inadequacy – only then to have to compensate for feeling inadequate. 😉 
  • It makes us feel good and valued and can be done whenever we feel discouraged or doubtful. 

At first this practice may be very awkward. If we’ve fed the critical parent in our heads too much, we may hear a lot of backlash when we begin bestowing compliments and gratitude on ourselves. Endure this resistance and keep practicing. An unconditional self-love is the only foundation on which we can build lasting peace and bliss throughout our lives for real. 

When we begin to reach a new level of awareness and really hear the voice inside us that’s full of self-doubt and fear, it can be overwhelming. But there’s no need to arm wrestle with your thoughts. Instead, pick three or more times a day when you will commit to a self-love practice. My favorites are in line at the store, when I’m stuck in traffic and before bed. 

It won’t be long before you begin to develop a nurturing relationship with yourself instead of a critical one. When this happens, you will begin to know a peace that comforts you no matter what you are facing. Try it. Better yet, look yourself in the eye in the mirror and try it. 😉 Of all the people in the world, you deserve your love most of all. ✨✨

remaining centered in a rattled world


We are not our mistakes. We are love and we are always perfect. Our actions may not express our highest selves, so we simply forgive ourselves and begin again.

We are love, but are constantly separated from that state by things going on in our lives. Reality can eat into our bliss state: challenging relationships, guilt over past choices, jobs, family demands. The goal is to greet it all in an enlightened state. 

The question is, how? How do we forgive & how do we keep coming back to a centered place? How do we stay in our bliss space nearly all the time? 

We tend to berate ourselves for our miscues because we identify too closely with them. We see our actions as a part of ourselves, and understandably so, but we are not a job, a marriage or a certain level of achievement, nor are we our failings. These are a part of our lives and they are important, but they don’t measure our value and worth. 


Our highest selves are beyond all these life circumstances. We are pure love being expressed by the universe. We are made in the image and likeness of whomever we believe our creator to be. Our inner selves, our souls, are perfect. 

So while we mess up, we maintain our perfect image and likeness. We can ask for forgiveness from our creator, but have also been given the power to forgive our own missteps. 

If you have already built a strong connection to your highest self and know your perfect essence, great! You are all set. If not, try this trick. 

To cut through the hours of meditation, journaling and self-evolution, get in touch a future you. Create a clear vision of your enlightened, fully-evolved self. 


For me, this me radiates love, oozes peace & and is completely content knowing the present moment holds everything I need and that I am fully support by universal forces at all times. While we’ve nixed hundreds of years of Buddha practice, there still remains some practice. Once you are clear on this picture of your Buddha-self, practice feeling that unending love, or deep gratitude. (Sometimes we can’t connect with the feelings of inner calm, and that’s ok. We may need some other support. Try this post for some ideas.) 

I think of it as acting like what I want in the future is actually here in the present. But really at some point, we impress our vision of our evolved selves so clearly that the universe takes notice and our evolution accelerates. 

In fact, if we can inhabit our highest selves with full feeling, it may only take hours or days for us to completely evolve into this version of ourselves. While we see practice as a long and arduous thing, the more expert our attempts the less time and practice it takes to get there. The more clearly we’ve told the universe who we are, and the more we believe it is true right now in the present moment, the quicker the manifestation. 

Now we return to our real lives. Knowing that it is our most dominant state that gets us where we want to go, we don’t let the moments when we falter to truly derail us. We greet challenges as opportunities to practice embodying our highest selves in the present moment. 

We encounter a challenging person and we meet them with divine love. We see their divine light also and recall that neither of us as the summation of our human flaws at all. 

We have that day where nothing appears easy and nothing goes according to our plan and we meet it with the hundred-year peace that took us only seconds to command. We imagine our fully evolved selves standing in our place both flying above the chaos of real life while fully commanding it with impenetrable peace. 

We are dealing with uncertainty…. Job change, relationship change, moving or a major life decision. We no longer fear. We embody our new selves and are completely filled with faith and comfort knowing the universe has our best in mind. 

For me, removing the struggle between me and my flawed self (guilt, berating myself) from the equation by imagining I’m inhabiting my divine self every time I face a very human disruption, has brought my bliss practice to a new level and expanded my bliss space, which I consider to be the amount of time I can remain in my enlightened space. 

Enjoy discovering your divine being by deciding who and what she is. Take a little time to practice being her and all else will fall into place. If it feels complicated or you have trouble accessing your bliss self, stick to love. Feel it, feed it, grow it and let it be what greets all that you meet in this very crazy real world. 

Love and light to you for a blissed day. ✨✨✨

morning mantras


My morning affirmations:

  • I am choosing love in all my actions & relationships.
  • I am sharing peace with myself and others.
  • I am extending compassion to myself and others.
  • I am nourishing my energy, ensuring its positive and kind.
  • I am sure that the universe supports me in all areas of my life.
  • I am filled with the belief that my thoughts create my life. I choose them consciously.

May your day be filled with greatness. ✨💕

powerful tools to balance your mind


Over a year ago, I read an amazing book called “The Mood Cure” by Julia Ross. Whenever I begin to stray from the advice I learned in the book, I always regret it. The basic principle is that what we think is our personality, most of the things that follow “I am” is actually not a static, ingrained or inherited thing, at least not entirely. 

As she clearly lays out in the survey on her site, certain fears, sensitivities, habits and motivations are dictated by four brain chemicals: serotonin, GABA, norepinephrine and low endorphins. In her books, she sets out high protein diet suggestions, and primarily amino acid supplements to balance out deficiencies. 

When I first took the survey, I scored high scores in all categories. And, when I forget or choose to stop taking one or more of the supplements, I feel symptoms creep back in. 

For more than a decade I have meditated daily, practiced mindfulness and turned my natural panicked mind into a much more positive and faith-filled one. 

But I still need the brain-balancing support of amino acids. And, I much prefer the natural path. 


Serotonin

According to Ms. Ross, low serotonin symptoms include but are not limited to: fear of crowds, flying , heights, public speaking; inflexible, irritable, impatient; pessimistic, anxious; fibromyalgia, SAD.

Serotonin supplements include: 5-htp, tryptophan, St. John’s Wort or Sam-e.
GABA

Under GABA, symptoms include but are not limited to: tense, uptight, trouble falling asleep, pressured, overwhelmed; sensitive to bright lights, loud noises, easily frustrated.

GABA is a useful supplement for this category. There are many opinions on its efficacy. I find it works. Some people, including me, have a strong reaction to too much of it at one time. It is quite extreme and includes not being able to catch my breath for at least 30-45 seconds. If you try it, start under 500 mg. 

You may also want to try other amino acids like taurine and glycine instead. There are clearly herbal options too such as chamomile, lemon balm or passionflower. 


Norepinephrine

These symptom have mostly to do with feeling blah, apathetic and unmotivated, a lack of adequate dopamine (low cats). More than this, low “cats” mean you have trouble focusing and finding energy. Some symptoms are: low motivation, trouble focusing, concentrating, depressed in a flat & apathetic way. 

Supplements include: tyrosine and dlpa. She also suggests herbals to raise cats and get your brain going. They include pycnogenol and grape seed extract. 


Low Endorphins

This equates not only to physical pain, but also emotional pain. If you’ve been called sensitive, have a hard tme getting over emotional hurt, and tend to cry at lots of things from commercials to emotional slights, this isn’t your fault. You likely have a low endorphin level. It’s like we are missing the ability to comfort ourselves without this  tool. But there are options.

If you are interested in this path of mental balance, check out the survey and look into her ebook. The survey is a great first step to understand what you may need to balance. Feel free to ask me questions about it, but remember I’m not a doctor. 😉 I believe we have a great power to self-heal in many ways, but ensure you look to your intuition, legit web sources and medical resources as needed. 

For me this was a key step on my journey to peace of mind and body, engaged relationships and increased productivity. I hope it is for you too. 💕

how to be spiritual & successful at the same time

Though learning how to live in the real world while maintaining a bliss state takes time to master, being assertive, successful and/or ambitious isn’t incongruent with living a spiritual life. We just need to apply some spiritual guidelines to real life practices. 

Here are some guidelines while we assert our boundaries & attain our goals:

  1. There is enough for everyone. 
  2. We can reach success while supporting others. 
  3. If we speak kindly and respectfully while considering the feelings and opinions of others, we can still voice our needs. We should always consider compromise. 
  4. Our needs are equally important. We don’t always have to put others first. 
  5. If our goals are consistent with our highest self and don’t infringe on the happiness of others, we may proceed. 
  6. When possible, we should seek to support & uplift others on their path. 

Reality and a mindful state can coexist with practice. Feel confident that you are worthy of all you seek. ✨✨

how to save yourself from the destructive pull of negative vibes


When I lose focus on the practices that have gotten me to the greatest personal space I’ve ever been in, the same things happen each time. First, I lose faith in myself and then I lose faith in everything. 😉 The slide from bliss to ordinary is triggered each time by the same three things: 

  1. too little gratitude
  2. too much venting 
  3. & too much unfiltered media

Now that I recognize the pattern, it is much easier to reign in before I careen off track. Here’s what I mean, followed by three ways to avoid the pitfalls. 

When my gratitude becomes inauthentic & rote, I am not filled up with any feelings of gratitude. And it isn’t what we say or think that truly has the energetic power to manifest more goodness in our lives, it’s what we feel. We need to ooze peace, happiness and thankfulness. So when I’m not doing that, and I get caught up in talking too long about what I haven’t gotten done and what is annoying me to no end, my energy begins swirling in the wrong direction. Add the temptation not to be worldly or aware, but rather to feed my “things aren’t right” feelings with mega media and I’m little mini-tornado wrecking my day… 

So how do we stop whatever creates our own vortex of negative energy?

  1. Check your energy.
  2. Reinvigorate your thankfulness practice.
  3. Connect with the moment, anytime, anywhere, by checking in with your five senses.
  4. Feed yourself only positive vibes.

Our feelings are our greatest creative tools. They impact our day and the people in it. Taking little moments to recharge creates simple practice for lasting and life-changing habits. 

Shine on, goddesses.

the key to positive change

Acceptance is a hard thing sometimes… most times. 😉 How do we accept something we don’t like, like loss or broken hearts? How do we accept health challenges or body pain when deep down our infinite wisdom is telling us this isn’t right and we deserve to be well, too? 

There’s a trick. There’s a trick to accepting even the things you hate the most. 

But first why? Why should we challenge ourselves to accept our present condition like we’d actually chosen it? Why does this matter so much?

First, without acceptance we can’t move forward. Plain and simply. And, the longer we fight acceptance, the longer it will take to grieve and heal, whether in a big or small way. 

Second, until we accept what is, our heads and hearts won’t be clear. Without a clear head, we really can’t make any trustworthy decisions. 

So here’s the key. When we fully accept things exactly the way they are, they immediately change. Even more than that, most often, when we accept them fully, they change into what we wanted anyway. Worst case? Our acceptance frees us to move on and it frees us up for whatever comes next. 

So the trick is, accept it knowing that it will work to your advantage, that it’s your act of acceptance that brings you closer to what you want. 
The next time you are resisting something you can’t seem to change, try this:

  1. Try to accept something you are resisting (and remind yourself that you don’t actually have to accept it for real – a little reverse psychology. 😉
  2. Create a mantra to fill your mind when the topic comes up, like I fully accept X exactly the way it is in this moment. (And no other moments. 😉
  3. Offer complete acceptance to the universe knowing that you aren’t saying you like what’s going on or agree with it, but that you aren’t accepting things to neutralize the energy that’s holding you back. 

If we want to change things, we have to neutralize our resistance through acceptance. Only thru acceptance can a lasting & constructive change take place.

An Intro to Histamine Intolerance

When I first discovered histamine intolerance, I immediately wondered if it was the reason I was always congested. It definitely made me curious, but after years seeking help from doctors and therapists, and over a decade of my own research and trial & error, I was too tired of half-solutions & dead ends to take it that seriously. But recently as an answer to a plea to the universe for a solution to my declining wellness, it came to my attention again, and this time I started paying attention. 

According to Histamine-intolerance.info, histamine intolerance is the intolerance towards “normal” levels of histamine in food caused by a decreased activity of the histamine-degrading enzymes diamine oxidase (DAO) or histamine N-methyltransferase (HNMT).
The pioneering Doctor of histamine intolerance, Janice Joneja, explains it this way:

Under normal conditions, when histamine levels from any source rise above a certain level, these enzymes rapidly degrade the excess. However, when the rate of breakdown of excess histamine is insufficient to deal with the excess, the total level of histamine in the body rises.

When the total level of histamine rises above a person’s histamine threshold, histamine intolerance symptoms appear. I have had many of these symptoms, and after a serendipitous conversation with a friend dealing with angioedema, I traced many of these symptoms to family members on both my mother and father’s side, which further confirming my gut feeling that I’d finally found the root of my dis-ease. 

Review this symptom list to see if histamine intolerance could be at the root of your own mental & physical health struggles:

  • Headaches/migraines
  • Sleep problems (difficulty falling, staying asleep)
  • Difficulty regulating body temperature
  • Fatigue
  • Dizziness
  • Brain fog
  • Anxiety, irritability, confusion, panic attack
  • Flushing
  • Nasal congestion, sneezing
  • Irritated, watery, reddened eyes (conjunctivitis) 
  • Hives
  • Pruritus (itching especially of the skin, eyes, ears, and nose)
  • Tissue swelling (angioedema) of face, mouth or throat
  • Anaphylaxis 
  • Heartburn, reflux
  • Nausea, vomiting, cramps
  • Diarrhea and/or constipation
  • Eczema, acne, itchiness
  • Chills and shivers 
  • Changes in menstrual cycle
  • Hypotension
  • Fatigue, can be extreme 
  • Very occasionally short loss of consciousness
  • Arrhythmia, accelerated heart rate, hearing pulse when lying down at night

While it appears to be further complicated by the fact that each person has a different histamine threshold, and many people react differently to the same foods, the great news is, there is growing consensus about how to deal with histamine intolerance. 

For me, there were a few keys steps that set me on the right path to wellness, and I began to feel better within days. The amazing thing about addressing histamine intolerance, is that while it takes a bit of awareness, there are also some quick tools to accelerate the path to renewed energy, decrease fog, increased control over moods and a greater feeling of stability.

I will be blogging a lot about histamine intolerance, and allergies, in the coming days and weeks, as well as about my own experience healing from it, and I hope it’s the light at the end of the tunnel for many of you.